Nothing in this article is meant to be medical advice. Please consult you own healthcare provider.\u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n
Some info below taken from:\u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n
\u201cThe Worst is Over,\u201d Judith Acosta and Judith Simon Prager, Jodere Group, 2002, www.traumaresourceinstitute.com.<\/i><\/p>\n
Having been a trauma psychotherapist for nearly 30 years, now retired, I still find myself thinking about how to help those of us suffering from traumatic incidents. I know there are many of you who, also, wish to be a healing presence for family and friends experiencing acute states of high-level emotional\/physiological stress. Such stress can be caused by a breadth of dramatically upsetting events such as bad motor vehicle crashes, violence, loss of a loved one, devastating medical diagnoses or even direct abuse at the hands of another.<\/p>\n
When I say \u201cacute,\u201d I am thinking now of someone whose emotional\/physiological equilibrium is so deeply overturned that they are \u201cbeside themselves,\u201d as the saying goes, both figuratively and even literally. You know what I mean if you\u2019ve ever experienced one of those altered states where you are so disoriented you don\u2019t feel like you\u2019re in your own body. Your own natural resilience seems lost to you. It\u2019s a frightening state to be in and having someone nearby who can help ease that suffering is invaluable.<\/p>\n
Often, though, when we\u2019re trying to help, we feel inadequate and unprepared.<\/p>\n
I stumbled across a terrific book a few years ago, \u201cThe Worst is Over.\u201d I recommend it. It provides us with needed preparation. The authors call it \u201cverbal first aid.\u201d<\/p>\n
The authors provide medical evidence that the right words can calm, actually changing the physiological reactions of the sufferer. The wrong words can change reactions, too, worsening them.<\/p>\n
When I was training physicians on how to work with women who had been sexually assaulted, one caution I always underscored was that an innocent phrase could have a devastating effect on the victim. A phrase something like, \u201cWhy did you even go into that dark parking lot alone?\u201d \u2014 although meant empathetically, will frequently be interpreted by the victim as blaming, and become another hurt, long-remembered.<\/p>\n
On the other hand, something as simple, genuine and heartfelt as, \u201cI am so sorry this happened to you,\u201d can soothe.<\/p>\n
There is not enough space here to do justice to verbal first aid, but here are the bare bones. Do these, even with an unconscious person:<\/p>\n
Generate rapport with the sufferer. Speak with authority and empathy. Give your name. \u201cI am here to help. The worst is over. I will not leave you alone. Help is on its way. (If this is accurate). I am covering you with some blankets.\u201d (Describe your other comfort\/first aid measures.)<\/p>\n
Get a contract: \u201cWill you do as I ask you to?\u201d<\/p>\n
Give clear, positive, firm suggestions for pain relief and healing: \u201cBecause your body knows how to heal itself, you can right now begin to relax and let your body do its work. All your body\u2019s resources are working at this very moment to help you recover and get through this.\u201d<\/p>\n
Callie Wight is a California state-licensed registered nurse with a Master of Arts in psychology.<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Nothing in this article is meant to be medical advice. Please consult you own healthcare provider.\u00a0 Some info below taken from:\u00a0 \u201cThe Worst is Over,\u201d Judith Acosta and Judith Simon Prager, Jodere Group, 2002, www.traumaresourceinstitute.com. Having been a trauma psychotherapist for nearly 30 years, now retired, I still find myself thinking about how to help […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":411079,"featured_media":49003,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"amp_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1046,39],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n